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How to boost Confidence

How to boost Confidence


Building Confidence Confidence is not something that can be learned like a set of rules; confidence is a state of mind. Positive thinking practice, knowledge and talking to other people are all useful ways to improve or boost your confidence levels.
Confidence comes from feelings of well-being, acceptance of your body and mind and belief in your own ability, skills and experience.

Self-confidence is extremely important in almost every phase of our lives, yet so many people struggle to find it.

Confident people inspire confidence in others: their audience, their bosses, their customers, and their friends. And gaining the confidence of others is one of the key ways in which a self-confident person finds success.
Low-confidence can be a result of many factors including: fear of the unknown, criticism, being unhappy with personal appearance, feeling unprepared, poor time-management, lack of knowledge and previous failures.

You can have anything you want if you are willing to give up the belief that you can’t have it.” Dr. Robert Anthony

Confidence is not a static measure, our confidence to perform roles and tasks can increase and decrease. Below are some ways which can help you in boosting your confidence:-

1. Stay away from negativity and bring on the positivity-

This is the time to really evaluate your inner circle, including friends and family. This is a tough one, but it’s time to seriously consider getting away from those who put you down and shred your confidence.Be positive, even if you’re not feeling it quite yet. Put some positive enthusiasm into your interactions with others.

Stop focusing on the problems in your life and instead begin to focus on solutions and making positive changes.There are many ways a person can change negative thoughts and self-criticism to more realistic and positive thoughts. Focusing on all of them at once may be overwhelming, but focusing on a few at a time and reminding yourself of these positive approaches regularly can change your self-esteem.

Read the positive thought strategies below and choose several that would help you most. Write them down and remind yourself to pause and change your way of thinking each time you are being critical of yourself. As you become more comfortable with each new way of thinking (for example, learning not to apologize or accept blame for other’s anger) try adding a new positive thought strategy to your list. Below are some thoughts:-

  • Accept flaws and being human.
  • Accept imperfections.
  • Don’t bully yourself.
  • Replace criticism with encouragement.
  • Don’t feel guilty about things beyond your control.
  • Don’t feel responsible for everything.
  • Treat yourself kindly.
  • Give yourself a break.
  • Choose the brighter side of things.
  • Forgive and forget.
  • Focus on what you CAN do, not what you can’t.

2. Perfect Body language-


Understanding and managing body language boosts your confidence. By managing your body language and sending appropriate signals in specific situations, you receive positive feedback and feel assured you aren’t sabotaging your own success or the perceptions of others.

More importantly, when you practice powerful, positive body language, you’re sending messages to your brain to reinforce positive, confident feelings. Confident body language actually makes you feel more confident.

Here are 9 powerful body language tips to instantly boost your confidence:

  • Practice smiling.
  • Pay attention to posture.
  • Use power poses.
  • Have a strong handshake.
  • Dress for confidence.
  • Stop fidgeting.
  • Practice appropriate eye contac. 

This is where posture, smiling, eye contact, and speech slowly come into play. Just the simple act of pulling your shoulders back gives others the impression that you are a confident person. Smiling will not only make you feel better, but will make others feel more comfortable around you. Imagine a person with good posture and a smile and you’ll be envisioning someone who is self-confident.

Look at the person you are speaking to, not at your shoes–keeping eye contact shows confidence. Last, speak slowly. Research has proved that those who take the time to speak slowly and clearly feel more self-confidence and appear more self-confident to others. The added bonus is they will actually be able to understand what you are saying.

3. Realise that failure or being wrong will not kill you-

Don’t accept failure and get rid of the negative voices in your head. Never give up. Never accept failure. There is a solution to everything. Make this your new mantra. Succeeding through great adversity is a huge confidence booster.

Low self-confidence is often caused by the negative thoughts running through our minds on an endless track. If you are constantly bashing yourself and saying you’re not good enough, aren’t attractive enough, aren’t smart enough and on and on, you are creating a self-fulfilling prophecy. You are becoming what you are preaching inside your head, and that’s not good. The next time you hear that negativity in your head, switch it immediately to a positive affirmation and keep it up until it hits the caliber of a self-confidence boost.

Confidence comes not from always being right but from not fearing to be wrong.”
Peter T. Mcintyre

Again, you have to face your fear. Because it is only then that you discover the thing that billions of people throughout history have discovered before you. Failure won’t kill you. Nor will being wrong. The sky will not fall down. That’s just what people that haven’t faced their fear yet think.
The thing is to reframe failure from being something that makes your legs shake to something useful and important for the growth of your self confidence and your overall growth as a human being.

Here are four ways that failure can help you out:
 You learn.
 You gain experiences you could not get any other way.
Makes you stronger.
 Your chances of succeeding increases.

And remember, the world doesn’t revolve around you. You may like to think so. But it doesn’t. People really don’t care that much about what you do. They have their own life, problems and worries that the world revolves around them to focus on. They don’t think that much about you or are constantly monitoring what you do wrong or when you fail.

4. Preparation-  

If you are prepared, and have the knowledge to back it up, your self-confidence will soar.

One important key to success is self-confidence. An important key to self- confidence is preparation.”- Arthur Ashe

Preparing yourself and educating yourself can be a big help here. For example rehearsing and rewriting your speech over and over you can pretty much learn it by heart. By doing research you can find breathing techniques that can quickly make your calmer and present. Or simple visualisation techniques that make you feel more confident and positive as you step out on the stage.

To build yourself we need to build confidence
This is obviously more work than not doing anything about the speech at all before you start giving it. But it can make a huge difference in your confidence levels if you take the time to prepare yourself. And of course, the speech and the delivery of it will most likely be a lot better too.
So prepare and you will feel more comfortable and confident. Just don’t make the mistake of getting stuck in the preparation phase and using it as a way to avoid taking action and the possible pain that it may result in.


I hope this post could help you in achieving self-confidence. In today’s world to achieve anything in your life and to be successful we require confidence.